If you are lucky enough to deeply and truly love and then you lose that love, love more, even in the face of loss.

If your heart is breaking, let it break you open and love even more.


I cannot take credit for this, but I read it recently and I really LOVE it. I was lucky to have had Rob in my life for as long as I did. I don’t feel cheated out of a promise of a long life together, instead I feel grateful for the time we had, the memories I cherish and the two beautiful children we made. 

I’m lucky to have amazing friends and family who I love with a passion and who love me right back.  

Because really, after all is said and done, it really is all about love. Wine and bacon are just an extra bonus.




18 Responses to “Love”

  1. mayfly Says:

    amen sister, amen !

  2. Sue Says:

    Kasey, what a beautiful sentiment! We have been thinking of you and the kids….hope that
    summer brings some healing.
    I never had the chance to meet you, but from all I’ve read from your and Rob’s friends,
    you were a special pair.

  3. Zoltan Says:

    Kasey – You are an amazing woman. Your words really affected me, I had to write. Rob is a model of how I want to live my life–he really lived with vigor. I only strive to have the guts and the vision to live my life like that. His life is my compass I keep in my head. Fare you well and have a prosperous life. Onward!

  4. Annie Says:

    AMEN, Sister!! I LOVE this post.
    I’m sorry I couldn’t make it to Rob’s service. Judging by the pix posted, it looks like he would’ve been quite pleased. 🙂


  5. Sheryl Says:

    Much as I revel in both wine and bacon (mmmmm…bacon…), they are a very weak second to love. Especially the love you had found. I miss you both…good luck in your Beach to Beacon (or is it Bacon…?!) race!

  6. Todd and Susan Says:

    What a great soul you are, and an inspiration to all of us. Thanks for continuing to reach out. In a long distance sort of way I just felt what it must be like for you so often, to see a space without Rob in it. This blog was a page with him on it, filling it. It was our keyhole into your world. And somehow I felt that feeling after the death of a loved one of walking in to the person’s space and feeling their absence. Another good friend of ours we met while cruising passed away recently, and we just visited their (now her) home. It’s like that… a little. I kept walking around corners expecting to see him. So what I am saying is this helps our long distance grieving to have you write in this space. To feel his absence. These updates and the layout became familiar, like the sofa and the chair. But it’s the amazing Kasey and family who fill it now. You continue to fill our hearts, please keep in touch- we will see you again some day you very special person. PS… there is a bar in Vegas where you can watch an all female punk band and get a bacon martini. Now that’s a bonus!

  7. Mark Says:

    There is nothing to compare to what love can do for us and how it can provide that sense of emptiness when we lose someone we have loved.

    “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

  8. John Panico Says:

    What a wonderful post Kasey. I was fortunate to become friends with Eob during our days at Info Systems. Thank you for your inspiration.

  9. Vanessa Says:


    Thank you for continuing to reach out. There is so much love for you and the kiddos here in this space, coming forth from so many different people from so many different places.

    I just want to say “ditto” to what Zoltan said above. I keep wishing to live life the way Rob did–all out, no fears, only vision, and well…love. For me, it’s changing some old habits, learning to appreciate every moment. To worry less about what I think I can’t do, and focus more on what I can do, what I want to do. Oh, how Rob, and you, are schooling us all right now.

    Like Todd & Susan said above, when I first saw an email from Rob, it was a very surreal fraction of a moment for me. A fractional insight into what you must be experiencing every day many times over. You are truly amazing.

    Your tribute to Rob at his memorial was heartbreakingly beautiful. That you feel gratitude and not cheated is just another testement to how much you two love(d) each other.

    Thank you. Love you. Love Sadie and Coop. And Rob, too.

    Breaking open,

  10. Mary Ellen Says:


  11. Mary Ellen Says:

    Dear Kasey,
    What a heart- felt post. You are just as beautiful on the inside as the outside. Sadie and Coop have been blessed to have such a loving, caring and kind mother. We love you. Uncle Paul and Aunt Mary Ellen

  12. Bonnie McWilliams Says:

    What an inspiring message! Thank you for sharing it – we think of you and the kids often and send prayers of comfort along to you all.

  13. Sootty Biskit Says:

    Love, just read it…at a family reunion down in OBX with 30ish folk( pretty sure most are family) Wow…maybe it’s the beach air, or some time off of work, or possibly the bourbon…thank you…perfect, beautiful, helpful!

  14. Nancy Says:

    Love, wine and bacon to you sweet Kasey.

  15. Sootty Biskit Says:

    HELLO! Let’s listen to some music.

  16. Sootty Biskit Says:

    I’ll start, Mother Nature’s Son

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  18. Elysha81 Says:

    While I can scarcely don’t forget anything I’ve posted earlier than September this year, I’d like to believe I’ve refrained from providing significant life guidance on right here since not only am I not educated or qualified to do so, I’d almost certainly need to have to know your individual circumstance to attempt to do so as accurately as I am able, and whilst I’d love to, I do not for some of you.

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